Lately, I've been reflecting on happiness, and I think I've arrived at a personal truth:
your Happiness is directly proportional to your selfishness.
Let's begin with a simple reality:
Everyone is selfish. Everyone has their own motives, priorities, and interests. Most people are not invested in your happiness — not because they're cruel, but because they're focused on their own.
(Exceptions: parents, siblings and a truly loving partner — they often make your happiness their own.)
How Did I Reach This Conclusion?
I remember moments when I felt completely broken — screaming into the void, pulling at my hair, overwhelmed by frustration.
Why?
Because I was expecting others to behave in ways that would preserve my happiness.
I wanted them to care. To prioritize me.
But here's the hard truth: most people don't.
Sure, people show affection. They offer support — but only to a certain extent.
When it comes down to it, everyone chooses themselves first.
In a crisis, people look out for their own safety and well-being. And honestly? That makes sense.
After all — you're told on a plane:
"Put your own oxygen mask on before helping others."
If you're not okay, how can you help anyone else?
The Takeaway: Keep the Remote of Your Happiness in Your Own Hands
Don't let others control how you feel.
Stand up. Speak your truth.
Make decisions you won't regret.
Remove yourself from situations where unhappiness is inevitable.
And most importantly, approach every circumstance with a mindset of self-preservation and self-prioritization.
Does That Mean You'll Hurt Others?
Yes and No.
No - If it's someone who genuinely cares for you, who's gone out of their way to support you — respect that. Reciprocate it.
Yes - If they don't fall into that category, don't lose sleep over it.
Life is short. You weren't born to live for everyone else.
But — and this is key — if you're happy and fulfilled, and you want to uplift others, go ahead.
That's a beautiful thing. Just don't lose yourself in the process.